This has been on my mind for a while… it’s time to talk about it..
As you may know I create YouTube videos where I try on clothes. I buy or am gifted the clothes and I tell you my personal opinion on the pieces. I also do styling videos where I put together outfits as well as body positivity videos where I give tips and trick to learn to love the skin we are in.
95% of all the comments I get on my videos are positive and supportive. (And I am very appreciative of that)
Then there are 4% of comments that may be critical of what I do or say, but comments are respectful and simply a difference in opinion or taste. (I love comments like that as they often open up for a little debate and a chance for me to learn)
But then we have the last 1%…. The few people who feel it’s necessary to tell me I’m too fat or too old or my boobs are too big or my ass too flat etc.. the ones that are more interested in being heard than being nice…
Now honestly, I have only in my career had 1 comment that actually hurt me, the rest of these 1%’ers are just “noise” and don’t bother me.. But my point is here.. I knew what I signed up for.. I have thick skin and the best support behind me that reminds me every day that I am beautiful and worthy!
But others will read these shitty comments and get hurt by them. Because they have not yet found that confidence that allows them to brush it off. They read comments about someone they care about, their YouTube friend (yes because that is what we are, a little group of friends that meet on my channel and talk fashion, style and our bodies)
They see someone, who looks just like them, being told all this negativity, and they get hurt!
And that is not ok!
I was brought up to be quiet if I hadn't anything nice to say and its what I have taught my children.
Sometimes its better to simply just be quiet!
So to all 1%’ers… please consider leaving that group and come and join us in the “sunshine”. Yes by all means give me your opinion because I want to hear it, and other will too, but simply give it politely and without making it personal. If you think my body is yucky in one way or another, that’s ok! But keep it to yourself! I don’t benefit from hearing your thoughts, no one who reads it benefits, meaning it’s simply just you who wants to make some noise!
And to all you 99% who engage with me (and others) in a positive and informative way, thank you. I love you all to the moon and back.
Love and hugs to all who needs it. Marleen x
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