It's all about the mindset!

When I work with clients and when I get comments on my YouTube videos, most often the push back that I get is that people cant tuck their tops and or wear belts. And as much as I FULLY understand, there is only one thing I can say to that. It is all about the mindset. Im sorry! There is not many people in this world who could not tuck their top if they wished too. Anyone who says they cant, its because their mind is playing tricks on them.. And WAIT, please don't cancel me just yet, let me explain. First I will tell you that I truly understand and it is only because I used to feel the exact same that I in good faith can sit here and preach.

The mental blocks we all have, stems, in my humble opinion, from what we have been taught, we have heard and what we have seen as we grow up and go through life. We are shaped and moulded by the people around us and what role models we have had. By celebrities, TV, social media and magazines. Over centuries the ideal body image has changed. Once upon a time the woman should be round and plump and at other time she should be so skinny that a glass of water would make her look too big. Never at one time has the woman and her shape simply just been allowed to be what is is, without judgement being cast..

We have learned that being bigger, softer, curvier is simply not ok. And god forbid you should have anything but a pert round backside and a flat tummy! Over time the judgements, the prejudice, the societal standards has changed us and told us what is "right" and what is wrong". And that is the mental blocks many of live with. An that is why you cant tuck your top or wear a belt. Not because you don't want too, but more than likely because somewhere in your memory bank, you can find a comment, a look, or a situation that made you feel less than the amazing self you are.

I am by NO MEANS saying its easy. I am by no means saying that you HAVE too. I am saying that if you WANT, YOU CAN! Its all in your mind. So if you want, start telling yourself that you CAN. Look yourself straight in the eye and tell that stupid inner voice that says no, that its a yes! Because you say so and that's the end of it!

The way I did it myself was just like that. I started to re-programme my brain from negative to positive. Every time I saw my reflection, in ANY surface, I paid myself a compliment. I told myself something positive. It could be as simple as telling myself I loved my outfit or my shoes or my hair, and I worked it up to the big compliments like I'm beautiful, I'm enough, my tummy is perfect as it has carried my babies. I got more and more personal and closer and closer to my body image and fears.

It has in fairness taken me years to be comfortable to go out of my house with a top tucked and no layer to hide my tummy but I have done it. I have managed to change my brain to positivity. I still practice every day and still have to keep myself in check (and sometimes have my loved ones remind me) but she's doing it! she's doing it! So next time you see someone in an outfit you love but your brain tells you that you cant wear it, remember my pretty face telling you that that is a lie, and that you most certainly CAN! And if you need help with how to dress, style or even just how to go about your wardrobe, I am here to help. You can book me for a 1-1 online consultation.

See more here: https://marleengallagher.wixsite.com/i-m-just-me-marleen/blank-3 So stay positive my dear and thank you for stopping by. Marleen x